Real People, Real Stories

Real stories from men who have been through tough times, encouraging other men to seek help. In a recent survey, men told us the reasons why they were struggling to cope.

42% of men said that pandemic restrictions have had a negative impact on their mental health

40% of men said that talking to others helped with concerns and worries they had during the pandemic

We understand the power of human connection and how talking can help when you’re finding life tough. Call us free on 116 123

Steve's story

My life has been pretty fantastic, up until ten years ago when we suffered a suicide in the family. This was by far the most devastating thing.

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Jon, 38

"I couldn’t sleep, didn’t want to eat, didn’t want to socialise and all those things added up to me realising I wasn’t ok."

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Josh, 33

"When I started senior school, I suffered a lot with anxiety, but I didn’t know that’s what it was. The way I dealt with the anxiety was by being angry. So, people saw anger over anxiety."

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Martin 52

"I was embarrassed to talk to the doctor at the time, but I needed to phone someone and start a journey."

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Tom, 29

"At the time, and it sounds so simple, talking to someone about how I was feeling really helped. PTSD is an ongoing battle, but I rebuilt my physical and mental health and decided to train for a marathon."

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Ollie, 25

"I was struggling to cope and thought about suicide as an option when things got really bad. The morning after a particularly bad night, I woke up and knew then that I needed to get help."

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Jean-Louis, 48

"The first thing you have to do is admit there is something wrong. Until you admit you have an issue you can’t fix it."

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Steven, 36

"It’s not that one phone call magically fixed everything - the problems were still there - but it was a turning point. And since then, I’ve been able to build the sort of life that would have seemed impossible to me."

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Darran, 39

"For me, talking to someone feels like a sense of achievement. I get a rush of emotion when someone listens. You don’t have to face it alone, you can get there, just speak to someone."

Darran's story

Tony, 40

"Having somebody to turn to was never the problem for me, it was more my reluctance to open up to anybody as I genuinely felt nobody else would ever understand how I was feeling."

Tony's story
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I had had enough, I didn’t want to be here anymore. I woke up in hospital, surrounded by my family, who were crying, and that is the worst feeling in the world, the guilt.

Leon McKenzie, 40, former premier league footballer

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Two in five men aged 20-59 in England, Scotland and Wales don't seek support when they need to, because they prefer to solve their own problems. If you’re feeling low or struggling to cope, it’s okay. Call us free, on 116 123 or on our Welsh language line 0808 164 0123.